Alone, But Not Lonely

Solitude is probably one of the luxuries a mother craves for on occasion.  Moments when you can just be by yourself and play diva bingo online without having to worry about changing nappies or washing feeding bottles are precious and few.
I have to confess that whenever I get the chance, I do sneak in a game on Costa Bingo.  If I’m not online, I listen to music from my youth. Vanilla Ice and Cece Peniston become my friends for a fleeting moment.
Don’t get me wrong.  I enjoy a hot cup of cofffee with my best girl friends, or a stroll around our garden with my husband, but there are just times when I want to be by myself.  I feel I get to know myself better when I’m alone, in the silence of the turmoil of my thoughts.  Now, that sounded quite contradictory, didn’t it?  How can turmoil be silent? Anyways…
Why is it important to be alone at times?  Whether you’re a mother to a troop of 8, or a yuppie on a mission to make his first million before the age of 30, you do need to touch base and occasionally reflect on who you are.  Oftentimes, it’s difficult to do that when you’re in a noisy bar with half-naked girls dancing on a pole.
In this busy and crazy world, we tend to lose ourselves in the rat race.  We allow our jobs, and the people around us to dictate who we are, that we lose the very essense of ourselves.  And then, we wonder why we’re so stressed out about everything!
Carving out some time for yourself shouldn’t be that hard.  In the midst of your busy schedule, you should be able to squeeze in a quick glimpse of your favorite soap on TV.  Being a loner on occasion isn’t at all that bad…


  1. Babyposh

    April 1, 2012 at 12:07 am

    Well yes, sometime we just need to be alone. 🙂 And being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. 😀

  2. RHica

    March 31, 2012 at 10:14 pm

    In the midst of Busy schedule you should still always have that Happy ALone TIME

  3. Jesse

    March 31, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    I’m not alone at times, but the problem is i’m lonely , yeah I’ll try online gaming 🙂

  4. Gina

    March 31, 2012 at 7:42 pm

    That’s true we can play online games when alone and bored. That’s what I do .

  5. Donna

    March 31, 2012 at 7:39 pm

    Wow. That’s a good advice , yeah we can consider ourselves ALONE at times but that doesn’t mean we are to become LONELY 🙂

  6. sigrid @ dreamerscape

    March 28, 2012 at 1:45 am

    that reminds me to get a much-needed massage. i am due for one and my body is aching!

  7. Anne @GreenEggs&Moms

    March 22, 2012 at 10:42 pm

    Can’t imagine having 8 kids but I would completely get if they wanted an entire day to themselves every week 🙂

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