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Every generation brings different qualities to their parenting. Maybe your parents spanked you, but you don’t spank your child. Your mom might have fed you rice cereal at 3 months, but you waited to introduce solids until your baby was 6 months old.
Moms through the generations may have different parenting styles, but likely all moms find parenting a rewarding, and occasionally frustrating, endeavor.
Just as you have a different parenting style than your parent, you likely have a different way of relaxing.
Your mom likely released steam by meeting with neighbors or working out in the yard in her garden. She might have occasionally hired a sitter to have date night with her husband.
Your mom, however, might be surprised that you unwind by playing online games on the computer. She may not know that computer games aren’t just for kids anymore. In fact, there are plenty that are challenging enough for adults. There are many games out there (Click for Gala Bingo), and they can offer you a mental challenge as well as a social outlet.
Or, you might be like other modern mothers and release steam by having a girls’ night out or even a girls’ only vacation. Your husband might take care of the little ones while you bond with your girlfriends for a weekend away or even a bachelorette party in Vegas.
Instead of working in the yard for exercise as your mother does, you might take an early morning yoga class or meditate. You might relieve stress by taking a martial arts class, something your mother would never dream of doing.
Yes, times are likely very different than they were for your mother.
However, you both can provide a good example to your child. As a mother, caring for your children is important, of course, but just as important is taking time out of your busy day to do activities you enjoy. You can’t be a good parent if you don’t take time to recharge your battery. Whether you’re playing a computer game or taking a yoga class, finding time for yourself is essential.
If you teach your child this lesson well, maybe 25 years from now you’ll watch in amazement at the way she chooses to unwind, just as your mother watches you.