There Is Still Hope: Combating Infertility with Donor Eggs
It’s often said that having children is the most natural thing in the world. It’s definitely something that people very often take for granted. After all, when we dream as kids about how many children we’ll have, what they’ll look like, what to call them, we never stop to think that we may need help to make those baby dreams come true. The idea that our eggs may not be viable doesn’t usually come up in our fantasies.
But even if you’ve been told that you can’t conceive using your own eggs, that doesn’t mean you can’t still have the family of your dreams. When you discover the donor egg process, you’ll realize you can still transform despair to hope, and hope into your very own baby.
Searching for a donor
Making the choice to use donor eggs is not a simple decision for most families. Finding out that you can’t use your own eggs can be very painful and come with a wide range of emotions. You may feel rage, anger, sorrow, or jealousy at your friends getting pregnant at the drop of a hat. So, it’s important to be open about your emotions and speak through them with your partner, or a professional who can help you prepare yourself emotionally for the next step.
Sometimes, dealing with the fact that your child won’t share your DNA is a big stumbling block for future moms. But when it comes to using donor eggs, each donor has a detailed profile outlining her family history, height, weight, eye color, even educational background and interests, so you can find a donor who shares some of those traits with you.
Additionally, all donors undergo an extensive screening process that includes drug screening, blood tests, a psychological examination, and a full medical history. Egg donors are selected when they are at their most fertile, between the ages of 21 and 32. This ensures that your conception has maximum chances of success and your pregnancy and child will be healthy.
Frozen or fresh donor eggs?
Donor egg IVF cycles until quite recently were always carried out using fresh donor eggs. While they still have a marginally higher success rate than frozen eggs, there are many drawbacks to the fresh egg option. Fresh donor egg cycles are very costly, at around $35,000-50,000 per cycle, and require a close contact with the donor to get your menstrual cycles in sync. This often calls for high doses of hormone medications and sometimes lengthy delays if synchronization problems occur.
Frozen eggs not only have a higher chance of success than ever before, but they also eliminate the issue of menstrual cycle synchronization. You can start whenever is convenient to you and you don’t have to feel any emotional connection to the donor. Many women prefer it this way, as they can simply select a donor online without having to personally meet them. The cost is about half the price as fresh donor eggs, and many clinics provide financing aid as well.
You will also have a wider selection of egg donors to choose from, as you have access to a national donor pool. This means that your chances of finding the right donor for you are higher, and you’re no longer restricted to choosing a local donor.
The next step
Once you and your partner have decided on donor egg treatment, the next step is to make an appointment with a fertility specialist. Known as a reproductive endocrinologist, they will help you clear up any doubts, and go over the process and your medical history with you. Once the initial prescreening stage is done, and you have selected the right donor, it takes around four weeks to complete a frozen donor cycle. Which means that you can start when your next period is over and be pregnant in under a month!
If you decide to use fresh donor eggs, the process will generally take longer and require more appointments and treatments. So, if you have a busy schedule, get ready for it to be frequently interrupted during the six months or so that the traditional process lasts.
Fighting the good fight
As you already know by now, there are some things in life you simply don’t have control over. Until fairly recently, if a woman was diagnosed as infertile, her only option was to look at adopting. But thanks to modern science, you can now take a different path. Using a donor egg to conceive, you can still get pregnant, feel your baby growing inside you and connect with your infant long before birth.
Combat infertility with donor eggs – and win!