John Gray couldn’t have been more correct when he said that Men are from Mars, and Women are From Venus. With so many things we don’t understand about each other, it feels as if we live in totally separate planets. It’s this “misunderstanding” which leads to a plethora of conflict between husband and wife.
Oftentimes, mountains turn into molehills. Little issues suddenly turn into full-blown wars of sorts, that even the most expensive presents for wife just won’t appease her. It’s communication which is the key to the success of most, if not all, loving relationships. More than talking, we should master the art of listening. This one too is a two-way street.
When we listen, we should put all judgment aside and be fully absorbed in what the other person has to say. Here are some things which husbands and wives should ask each other:
What can I do to make you feel more secure and loved? This is probably something men should ask their women more, as women are quite the more insecure ones when it comes to relationships. More than a truckload of interflora gifts for her, we women need constant reassurance of our man’s love for us. If your man asks you this, let him know clearly how you want to be loved. Tell him which signs of affection endear you the most. Men don’t read signals that easily, so we do need to be specific.
What mutual goal do you like us to accomplish? Husbands and wives should periodically check in with each other as to where they’re going with their life goals. If they’re not on the same page, then that spells trouble.
What attribute would you like me to develop? This isn’t about having your partner go through a major personality overhaul. It simply means asking your significant other if there are certain facets of your personality which need a little tweaking. Ask him or her what you can do to help with his self-improvement goals.
Loving relationships flourish when there is active communication between husband and wife. Nurture this, and you will be nothing short of amazed at the results.
