Waking Up the Mombie: Feel Good About Yourself As a New Mom

Being a new mother is one of the toughest things to experience. You love your new bundle of joy, but not everything is all sunshine and roses when it’s so emotionally and physically exhausting. Having a newborn around is a lot of work, even with another parent to support you in any way they can. One of the things that can take a hit is your self-esteem, and how confident and attractive you feel. Some women can take a year or more before they begin to feel attractive again. If you want some ways to feel pretty while you’re caring for a newborn, especially if you haven’t returned to work, there are a few things you can do to feel better about yourself.

 

Wash Your Face and Moisturize

Sometimes, it’s the simple things that can lift your mood and make you feel better. When you have a baby, it can turn you into a “mombie” who rarely has time to do anything for herself. But caring for your body and doing the basics to make sure you don’t feel awful are essential. It’s amazing how much just washing your face or getting in a super quick shower can help you feel refreshed. It can be difficult to get time to yourself with a newborn, but it’s harder once your baby is old enough to bang on the bathroom door. So treasure the available time you have now and allow yourself a moment to refresh your skin and to moisturize too.

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Put Some Simple Makeup On

You don’t have time for a full face of makeup when you have a baby to care for. Some days, you might not even leave the house anyway, so it could all be a waste of time. But a bit of makeup can help you feel better about yourself, even if the only person who sees it is you when you look in the mirror. There might not be time for eyeliner, but a layer of foundation and some lipgloss can help to perk you up a bit. It helps you to value yourself and take a bit of time to take care of yourself.

 

Pick a Cute, Comfortable Go-to Outfit

Looking after a baby requires practical clothes. You might have to change them three times a day, after all. But just because they’re comfortable, it doesn’t mean they can’t be stylish. It’s a good idea to decide on a basic outfit or “uniform,” so you can easily mix and match a sensible outfit without too much thought. For example, get a collection of yoga pants and comfortable tunics of similar colors so you can swap them around easily. You’ll feel comfortable and look cute, and you don’t have to worry about your clothes clashing or looking like a slob.

 

Put on Some Jewelry

Jewelry is another thing you might feel like you don’t have time for. But just one accessory can make your outfit a bit more exciting and help you feel better about yourself. Choose a necklace or a pair of gold hoop earrings that you can wear every day, so you don’t have to think about it too hard. Once your baby’s hands start to get grabby, you might want to rethink what you wear. Some moms decide to get teething jewelry and other accessories that will stand up to being grabbed and sucked. But if that’s not for you, choose something that will stand up to a bit of tugging.

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Book a Photoshoot

This one isn’t for everyone, but a lot of new mothers find it can help their confidence. Lots of photography studios offer mother and baby photoshoots (or shoots with both parents). They’re great for celebrating your new family and creating some memories. You can also have some photos of just you on your own, as a reminder that you still exist as an individual. It’s a good opportunity to dress up, do your hair, and put some makeup on. But if you’re not great in front of a camera anyway, perhaps give it a miss.

 

Grab Some Time to Pamper Yourself

Getting time to yourself might not be easy, but it’s not impossible. If you have a partner, they’re perfectly capable of looking after the baby for an hour or two without you. Or if not, you’re sure to have a family member or friend who can help. Breastfeeding can make it harder to get away, but plenty of women choose to express milk for a bit more freedom. Even if you want to stick close to your baby, you can still pamper yourself at home. Dad can watch the little one while you soak in the bath, and you’re right there if the baby needs you.

 

Ask for Outside Reassurance

Asking for compliments doesn’t come naturally to many people. But if you need someone to reassure you that you’re still beautiful or attractive and you’re not getting what you need, sometimes asking is the best way. People don’t always realize that you might be feeling a bit insecure and need some extra love. So if hearing someone compliment you helps you feel better, don’t be scared to ask for some nice comments about how you look, or even how well you’re doing with the baby.

 

Buy Yourself Something New

When all else fails, a bit of retail therapy can be just what you need to cheer you up. It can be especially effective if you’ve spent the last few weeks in yoga pants, struggling to find the time to wash your face. Maybe you won’t have much time to wear a new cashmere scarf just yet, but you can look forward to wearing it once you’ve got into a proper routine. Buy yourself something special, and perhaps organize a babysitter so you can wear it on a night out. You deserve to treat yourself.
It can take a while to feel like your old self again after having a baby. In fact, you might never feel exactly the same. But you can get to a place where you feel good again.

Leaving Home With Your Little One Doesn’t Have To Be A Mission

After bringing your newborn home, it’s easy to stay in your living quarters for the majority of the time during the first few months. After all, you feel nervous about having to brave the outside world and all the dangers it may bring your baby. And with everything you need around you for your little one, it’s easy to put off leaving home. But while it’s important to stick around for the first month or so in the house, you should try and brave the outside world after this for the sake of you and your baby. After all, guests might start to dwindle after the first couple of months. And you will start to feel trapped if you don’t leave home much with your baby. They also need to get out and experience the outside world, so they start learning when they are little. After all, the more things they see, the more it will help their development. Therefore, here is some guidance on braving leaving home with your little one. After all, despite what you think, it doesn’t have to be a mission!

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Start with a short time out at the beginning

The thought of going out for a long day can leave a lot of new moms feeling the fear. But it doesn’t have to be ages when it’s one of your first time braving leaving home with your kid. Instead, you should go out for a short time out at the beginning. It might be that you take your baby to another new mom’s house. It will give you and your child some much-needed company. And an hour or two away can be a great start. Or you might even consider going to a baby group. If you don’t have any friends who are moms, it’s an ideal way to meet other mommies. And they can help support you with your baby; they will be happy to give any advice or reassurance. It will only be an hour or so, and then you can head back home. Once you feel more confident, you can start going out for longer each time.

 

Get the changing bag ready in advance

One of the biggest fears for moms about leaving home is not having everything they need with them. After all, if your baby needs feeding when you go out, or you have to change their diaper, you need to ensure you have everything on hand. You don’t want to cut your journey out short as you need to head home for supplies. Or even have to hunt for a shop which sells everything you need. Therefore, when you decide it’s time to brave leaving home with your little one, you need to get the changing bag ready in advance. Make a list of everything that needs to be in the bag. Then you can tick them off one by one as you put them in the bag. When it comes to things like nappies and bottles, you should always put more than you need in the bag. After all, you don’t want to come stuck as you have run out! And make sure you put a blanket and a pacifier in the bag, alongside their favorite toy. After all, if your child gets upset while you are out, you can then reassure them with some familiar items. Once you have filled your bag, it’s worth double checking to make sure you have everything you need. And when you are happy, you can then zip up the bag and ensure it comes with you during the journey out.

 

Make sure the car is safe and comfortable

If you are going to be using the car when you go out, you need to get it ready so that you are happy to take your little one out in the vehicle. For one thing, you need to ensure that the vehicle is working correctly before you leave your drive. It’s worth getting an emergency kit which you can put in the boot. That way, if you and your little one break down, you can try and resolve the issue correctly. You can then ensure you safely put their car seat in the vehicle. Make sure it’s fitted securely, and it won’t move around during the journey. It’s so important to keep checking that the car seat is suitable for your kid. After all, as they grow, they will need a bigger size which is appropriate for their weight. In fact, you might be hunting online to find a car seat which fits your little one properly. You can read a good review about the Graco Nautilus 65 and other models online which might be appropriate for the next size. And then you need to make sure you attach some form of hanging car seat toy. It will keep them amused during the journey, so you don’t have to worry about tears. And remember when you do leave your drive, try and keep your eyes on the road. It can be so tempting to look back and see how your baby is. But you don’t want to make an error which leads to a crash. Therefore, concentrate on getting your baby to the destination to ensure you both arrive safely!

 

Plan the time carefully for your trip out

To ensure the time out with your child goes smoothly, you need to make sure you plan what time you go out. You wouldn’t think it would be of top importance, but it can make all the difference. For one thing, you want to make sure you head out on the trip away from feeding times. After all, your child is bound to get grumpy if you are driving when they are meant to be having a feed. Therefore, always feed them before you go to ensure they aren’t a terror during the journey. Also, you need to make sure you avoid prime times when everyone is going to be out and about. If there is a ton of people around, it might scare your little one if they are used to a couple of people at the time. And make sure it’s not a busy time when it comes to your driving too. After all, you don’t want a 10-minute car journey to end up taking an hour as you get stuck in traffic during commuting time. Therefore, plan the timing well to make sure it goes well when you leave the house!

 

Try and not panic during the trip out

It’s so easy for moms to start panicking when they shut the front door and leave the home behind them. After all, it’s almost like a comfort blanket when you are so used to having everything there for your kid. But if you do start panicking, you might start making your child nervous. After all, they can pick up on stressed out energy from their mom. And then they might start getting upset before you have even left your street. Therefore, as hard as it might be, you need to try and stay calm when heading out. Think of all the benefits of going to the park, or to a friend’s home with your kid. And if you stay positive, hopefully, your kid will do too. And then you can make sure that the trip out runs smoothly when you leave the home with your child.
And no one says you have to do it on your own. Get a friend or family member to come round and help you. That way, you have extra support when you want to leave the home. And it can help you until you build confidence to do it on your own!

A Few Things You Should Do in Your Baby’s First Six Months

The first six months of your baby’s life is pretty amazing. They learn so much in such a short space of time. Some days it can seem like it is lasting a lifetime. But when you look back on those six months, they really do fly by. So it is important to get as much done in that time as possible. Especially if you’ll be returning to work afterward. So here are some fun and easy activities that you could do with your little ones in those precious first six months.

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Photography Session

Your baby will only be a newborn for so long, and savoring those precious moments is really important. One great way to do that is by scheduling in an appointment with a newborn photographer to capture some shots of your little one. The great thing is that if they want to sleep during that time, it still makes for a pretty adorable photo. And another plus is that you don’t have to be in the shots if you don’t want to. They can be all about the baby. So perfect if you’re not quite feeling back to yourself yet.

 

Baby Massage

The first few months are an important time. Many people call them a ‘fourth trimester,’ as it can take some time for our babies to adjust to life outside the womb. One great way to help them adjust is by attending a baby massage course. It is a great way for the two of you to bond as well. It will set you up with some ideas to help soothe your baby and get them ready for bed in the future too.

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Music Time

For the first few weeks, baby’s eyesight is pretty minimal. But their hearing is good right from the first day. So attending a music group, or just making your own at home is a fun way for them to learn. When they’re awake, play music to them and see what they do. From around three or four months they’ll be able to grab and hold onto a rattle or squeaky toy. So having a few of those in is always a good idea so that they can make sounds. It is the early stage of learning cause and effect. When they realize they are the ones that make the sound, it is pretty adorable.

 

Vaccinations

The first few months can be a hard time with a little one. But they can be even worse if they get sick. So making sure that they get scheduled vaccinations is a great idea. The day of the vaccination might be quite tricky, as they could get a fever as a result. But if you’re prepared, and have some medicine in for them, it will make things easier. But it is better than having to have a few hospital appointments later on in life, right?

 

What are some things that you have done with your little ones in their first six months of life? If you’re going to be a parent soon, then I hope you embrace those first precious months. They’re tiring, but oh so lovely and worth it.

A Helping Hand Could Help You Get A Hold On Parenting

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There’s nothing as satisfying as being a new parent. There’s nothing as stressful, either. And, the stress doesn’t go away as your little one gets older. From bumps and bruises to not knowing the right path for your child, the worries are endless. In truth, none of us know what we’re doing! We only hope to get it right, and end up with well formed humans. And, for the most part, we do! Because, there’s no right way to raise a child. Whatever you’re doing, you can be sure that it’s the right thing for your kids. Though, that doesn’t ease the stress. Accepting that you can’t do it all alone could take some pressure off, though.

Admitting the need for help is something too many parents fail to do. We’re okay to ask for help in other aspect of our lives, but are incredibly stubborn when it comes to our children. We wouldn’t move house without the help of movers, or resent doctor’s for making us better. So, why do we find it so hard to let other people help on our parenting quest? Speaking from experience, there’s a definite idea of failure attached to asking for help. Blame biology or hormones, but it can feel as though you should be capable of providing everything your child needs. And you are, in theory. But, reality is different. You can’t provide what you don’t know!

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The struggle starts straight away. New parent nerves are some of the worse. Instead of admitting you feel overwhelmed, you struggle in silence. That’s when things are new, and you realize that all the baby books you read didn’t teach you anything worth knowing. If that sounds familiar, try to determine your reasoning. We all know that baby brain can make it hard to think straight, but it’s worth stepping back from the situation. Do you automatically go against other people’s advice? Do you snap whenever someone suggests you do things differently? These reactions are natural, but they won’t help you or your baby. So, what can you do to change them?

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Try to realize that other people are only passing on their experience to you. They’re not criticizing, or saying you’re doing things wrong. Remember that they’ve been where you are. They know how hard it can be, knowing what to do. No parent has gotten everything right from the off. We can only learn from experience and, dare we say it, listening to advice! Next time someone offers you advice, try taking it onboard. If it helps, you can disregard it until you’re alone again. Then, give it a go. You may just find that listening to people isn’t so bad after all.

Once you’ve crossed the hurdle of taking advice, practice asking for it. Start small. Ask what food people started their children on, or what nursery they would recommend. Then, build up to the bigger things. You’ll feel much better to know you don’t have to guess your way through motherhood!

Bringing Baby Home: High Tech Help to Soothe New Parent Nerves

If you’re a new parent, it’s completely normal to feel nervous or scared about what lies ahead. After all, you’ve never done this before so it’s as much a learning curve as it is actually being a parent. Everything is new and nerves are totally natural.

In fact, it’s estimated to take four months for new moms to properly get the hang of motherhood, and many new dads are often scared to hold their baby for the first time. But once you’re discharged from hospital and able to bring your baby home for the first time, the comfort blanket of medical professionals on-hand is gone and the real work has to start. To lessen the nerves of bringing baby home and help soothe any worries you may be feeling, below you’ll find some high-tech solutions for those baby nerves.

4moms Self-Installing Car Seat

A true game-changer in the world of car seats, this innovative 4moms Self-Installing Car Seat is guaranteed to take a load off your mind when it comes to strapping your baby in the car. You’re likely to be pretty nervous the first time you take your baby out anyway, let alone having to worry about keeping the car seat as safe and secure as possible.

This self-installing car seat comes with a user-friendly app that talks you through the exact process of where to place the seat to ensure it’s perfectly secured. Also featuring electric motors that automatically level the seat to keep it 100% safe for your baby at all times, the app will alert you if the seat isn’t perfectly positioned at any point, giving you an instant heads-up if something needs to be altered for the sake of your baby.

Alarm Clock for Me

Being a new parent can wreak havoc on your sleeping pattern. But, with this android alarm clock, drifting to sleep and getting up at early hours won’t seem as much of a chore.

Featuring a handy customizable alarm clock, this app also offers an innovative sleep timer feature that softly lulls you to sleep with either white noise or relaxing music. So, if you find yourself having to get up multiple times to tend to your baby during the night, Alarm Clock for Me makes falling back to sleep that little bit easier.

 

Smart Pacifier

The first time your baby gets sick is likely to be a nerve-wracking experience for any new parent, so having a device that allows you to both monitor and track your baby’s progress will be a huge help.

 

The Smart Pacifier is just like a regular pacifier loved by babies, but also takes accurate temperature readings. It saves previous readings too so you can track the progress of your child’s temperature – all from a simple pacifier!

 

Parenthood is undoubtedly one of the most rewarding and fulfilling life experiences you can have, but nerves and worry are highly likely to come along too. But with the added help of these high-tech devices and apps, being a parent will seem a little less scary and much more manageable.

 

Gabby Rogers gave birth to her son 6 months ago and has a 2-year-old daughter too. Currently staying at home to raise her little family, Gabby shares her thoughts and tips on parenting.

Round Two: Pregnant With Your Second Baby? Here’s What You Need To Know

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Ok you have survived the labour and got through the sleepless nights, nappy changes are a breeze and you finally feel human again.  So, by choice or by chance you find yourself ready to take it all on again!

 

If you are thinking about baby number two then remember all the great rules you learnt from baby number one and throw them out the window! Unfortunately no two pregnancies are the same and just when you think you’ve got it nailed, you’ll realise you haven’t got a clue.  Don’t worry though, you were in the same boat with round one!

 

Don’t take it for granted that getting pregnant the second time round is going to be simple.  Changes can happen to our bodies at any point and this can make conception tougher or, if you are lucky, easier.  If you are really ready and having no luck then consider making an appointment with a fertility clinic.  The sooner you get a plan together the better.  Go through all your options and remember, you have done it before.  Patience and time are the key.

 

If you already are expecting then you may have noticed morning sickness earlier than with your first.  Some doctors suggest this is because our body notices the subtle changes more after the first pregnancy, perhaps you just understand your body more.  There are lots of gentle differences between the first trimester of your second and first pregnancy including the sensation of baby moving at a much earlier stage.  Just tiny butterflies tickling around.  You may have mistaken them for trapped wind or a nervous stomach in your first, but this time you know what they are.  It’s a great feeling and gives you more time to interact and bond with your unborn baby.

 

If you have a toddler at home then you will be a lot more tired during the first two trimesters.  Finding a moment to take naps in the day or sleep through the night can seem impossible but it is vital to ensure the health of you and baby.  Try to get as much help as you need to keep you healthy and get your body ready for labour.

 

You will notice some major differences in the final trimester.  Fake contractions can be more noticeable and, more painful.  Your cervix may also give you more signs it is beginning to get ready.  You need to stay active if you can and not let these changes catch you out.  Due to the muscles stretching and then contracting so much after your first birth, they have become stronger and as such may produce a higher level of discomfort whilst getting prepared for the next job.  Go with it, invest in a tens device or take lots of warm baths.  Try to move around as much as you can to keep your muscles from cramping up and make it easier for your baby to get into position.

 

You will notice that you feel a little more confident about giving birth, whilst you may have worries you also have the reassurance that you got through it before and you can again.  Make a list of things you noticed in your first labour, what helped, what didn’t and then use those in your new birthing plan.  Just bare in mind this isn’t the same set of circumstances.  We can have longer to prepare with labour one.  Labour two can sometimes be much quicker.  

 

After labour you will also notice changes to your general feeling.  Recovery time may be much quicker than the first however you can also be more aware of your body tightening up again.  You may find this uncomfortable and you should talk to your midwife about additional help for pain.  Back at home you need to remember that lifting and playing with your toddler may need to be put on hold for a week or two until your body has fully recovered and be aware of the baby blues.  Hormones seem stronger the second time round and a few days after your get back you may feel a huge rush of anxiety, fear or relief.  Prepare for tears and accept it is all part of the incredible process.

 

Most of all, enjoy this pregnancy with a confidence you didn’t have in the last.  You are an expert now and you’ve heard all the horror stories before and seen that they don’t hold much value.  Then get ready, two children is a whole different ball game! Keep your wits about you!!

Moms, You Need To Burst That Stress Bubble

 

Do you constantly find yourself stressed and tense as a mom? It’s completely understandable if you’re dealing with issues like this. Being a mom is stressful, particularly if you’re juggling parent life with a job and other responsibilities as well as your own free time. You might also be worried about whether your kids are safe or whether you’re doing everything you can for them. Are they getting the best life possible under your care? Still, it’s important that you know how to deal with your stress and make sure it doesn’t get the best of you. If you’re not careful, it will and at that point staying focusing on being a great mom to your kids can be difficult.

Sleep Tight

One of the best ways to deal with stress is to make sure that you are getting enough sleep through the night. It’s possible that the reason you feel stressed is that you’re not giving your body the time it needs to heal and recover. Stress can keep you up all night, filling your mind with worry. If that’s the case, you are going to struggle to get the rest you need. That’s why you should think about writing things down before you head for a snooze. Or, alternatively, you can set up a blog. A blog can be a great way of dealing with the things that are causing you stress or anxiety. You can make sure that you feel better before you try and close your eyes.

You might also want to think about your bed. A bad bed will stop you getting enough sleep through the night because you’ll constantly be trying to get comfortable. The answer? Get a great down pillow that gives you neck and head support. Down pillow firmness will determine whether or not you find yourself wriggling and rolling all night.

Me Time

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One of the reasons moms feel stressed is that they focus all their time on their kids and their job. They never actually get any me time which means no chance of relaxing. You need to make sure that you are taking a few hours or even minutes in the day to lie back and relax. You don’t want to constantly be running from one place to another. Once in a while, sit down and read a great book. Or just have a soak in the bath. Anything that gives you a little pleasure through the stresses of daily life will be worth it.

Exercise, You’ll Feel Energetic

Finally, exercise is a great way of working off the stress building up in your life. If you are constantly feeling stressed, with a little morning run you can leave it behind you on the road. Or, you can let it out your body with a few minutes of yoga. After exercising your body is filled with endorphins. These stimulate the mind and can help you tackle some of the greatest problems that you might be facing in life. You’ll feel stronger too, and that’s exactly what you need. You want to feel like you can climb mountains. If that happens, you’ll find no trouble juggling all the different aspects of your life and still feeling great at the end of the day.

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BFFs And Pregnancy: Here’s What To Do When Your Best Friend Has A Baby

If you and your best friend have always been as thick as thieves, you will probably think that nothing can ever come between the two of you. However, there is one life event that might make the dynamics between you ever so slightly different – having a baby! Once one of you becomes a mother, things might change in your relationship. After all, mom won’t have quite as much time to hang out anymore! If your BFF is about to give birth, you might be worried that this will put a strain on your relationship. However, if you do all the following things, you will find that you will remain best friends and will also play an important role in the new baby’s life!

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Spoil Her

Once the baby arrives, your friend will feel far from glam. She will swap glamorous clothes for slacks, and will usually be covered in baby sick! So she won’t be feeling as stylish as she once did! So why not spoil her by treating her to some nice new clothes? This is an especially great idea if she doesn’t have the time to get out and go shopping herself. If you want, you might also like to buy your friend some special treats while you sort out some cute baby shower gifts before the baby even arrives!

Bring Her Lots Of Food

 

It may not seem like a huge gesture, but I’m sure your new mommy friend will love it if you pop round one day with a lasagne or casserole. Right now she won’t have much spare time what with all the breastfeeding, diaper changes, and endless sleepless nights!I’m sure she will really appreciate someone bringing her a healthy, home cooked meal. This way, she won’t have to rely on terrible ready meals and takeouts!

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Be No. 1 Babysitter

Your friend will be absolutely inundated with lots of messages and phone calls in the first couple of weeks after giving birth. But once everyone has sent their best wishes, she might start to feel a bit lonely. This is when you need to step in and provide her with plenty of company. You should also offer to babysit the baby whenever she needs an extra pair of helping hands. If you can be there as often as possible, you can help her with minor tasks. For example, she will be able to have a stress-free shower without having to worry about the baby!

Plan A Girl’s Day Out

Once the baby is here, your friend won’t have much time to make herself presentable for a girl’s night or day out. So that’s why it’s important to plan these things in advance so she can find someone to look after the baby. If you leave planning something like this to your mommy BFF, it will never get sorted. So it’s a good idea for you to take hold of the reigns and organize a day when you can go out, have some fun, and she can forget about being a mom for a short time!